What to Expect from Love

I am willing to give 100% for the one I love, though I am not always successful. Before you measure love and your expectations from it, you have to first judge yourself.

It was an interesting but difficult prompt today. I think we all expect those we love to do what is necessary for us. At the same time, most people don’t want to be fussed over. I enjoy meeting the needs and wants of the one I love and wouldn’t have it any other way. Love starts with me meeting her needs and not vice versa.

Today’s prompt: How far would you go for someone you love? How far would you want someone else to go for you?

Date Night! Sarah and I Thursday at the Cheesecake Factory.
Date Night! Sarah and I Thursday at the Cheesecake Factory.

If you have someone who loves you, that’s a really great thing. Unfortunately, people pour all kinds of meanings into that word so let’s not be hasty in using it. In my experience, it is total commitment to the happiness of the one you love. I believe if you have someone in your life who truly loves you, they will make sacrifices for your happiness and vice versa.

I think the key to love, and the most tricky part, is loving without expectations. Some people say marriage is 50/50%, each gives half. In reality, it is a blind giving. You vow to give 100% to them and they the same to you. I’ve been in a few relationships but none lasting longer than a year until I met my wife. We celebrate our 13th anniversary this November. I am proud of our marriage and we have been through highs and lows together, definitely more highs in case you’re reading this honey. It helps that my wife is a therapist. We try skills the great ones have outlined not the least of which is John Gottman. You don’t want to be the cause of your partner’s stress, you want to alleviate it. I aim for that, though I’m not always successful. So, I guess my answer to this question is that I am willing to give 100% for the one I love, though I am not always successful. Before you measure love and your expectations from it, you have to judge yourself.

Author: Damien Riley

Damien Riley is a blogger, film reviewer, & podcaster who writes a column at RileyCentral.blog once a week. He has an MA in English from California State University, Fullerton. He married a high-desert princess (now his queen). They have 3 children.

4 thoughts on “What to Expect from Love”

  1. Love is not competitive, does not measure who gives More. When you Loves someone you will go miles to make him happy and same is also expected of him. I Love my husband because he Loves and adores me . All it takes to be happy in a relationship is just cultivating The act of ” Love ” ” loving and being loved , and you See God at work..

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