Plugins

Plugins can be addictive. As with themes I recommend you keep these to a minimal pattern. If there is anything you can do on your own without plugins: ie; tags in the header, favicons, etc, I recommend you do it manually. Plugins can be a doorway to hackers. At first you will be tempted to try every plugin and that is fine, but have a long term goal of reducing them in number to 15 or so.

Before I list my favorite plugins, I wanted to give you a tip on a weight loss pill. You should weigh every decision based on its merits. This website can help you. I hope it does if you are in the market for it.

Now for the listing: My favorite plugins vary but for the moment I’d say my top ten are:

WP-PostViews, @Reply w comment preview, AddThis Social Bookmarking Widget (drop-down), All in One Adsense and YPN, HeFo, In Series, Nofollow Links in Posts, Popularity Contest, Subscribe To Comments, and Twitter Tools

Have fun exploring plugins but remember, there is a reason WordPress doesn’t include them in the core. Use them at your own risk.

The Psychology of Online Dating

Online dating draws many types. Which type you are can determine whether it works for you.

Many people date online nowadays. I myself once used Yahoo! Personals and met my wife through it. But there are many such as Match.com, or any other in the plethora of websites promising love with whipped cream and a cherry on top. I was single for many years, I got married late. My lovely wife and I made our vows in 2002 when she was 25 and I 33.

Then comes marriage?

We got married in Las Vegas at the Chapel of the Bells just across the strip from the Luxor where we had our one night honeymoon. Our relationship started online through Yahoo! Personals but in my late 20’s and early 30’s I tried a few online services and learned the psychology behind many of the people who use them. It’s quite curious.

Some people just want sex, plain and simple.

These are the animal urge types. For any number of reasons, these folks want to “hook up” and not “hang out.” It might be due to anger at a past relationship partner or it might be just satisfying primal urges. These people are no different than the ones who hang out at nightclubs hoping to “score.” The online services are great for these people, especially since they can make the nature of their interest quite clear from the get go … no surprises. It’s people like this that tend to give online dating a bad name for us folks wanting to simply meet a potential spouse. But, as long as they are transparent about their intentions, I can’t complain that these people use the services.

Yet others are looking for a someone to date.

These are the most admirable. They are patient. They make their profile complete. These people want to date and get to know someone before it gets serious. They meet in a public place and discuss things with each other before making the choice to go to a higher level. Often these people end up happily married. I’d see myself when I was on the service as one of these or the next one: marriage-bound.

And finally, some are looking for marriage.

These are the people who for whatever reason have decided they must get married. Often online dating is bad for these people because they are so desperate that people take advantage of them. But I say, if two people who are hungry to be married get together this way and are happy with one another, what bad is there in that?

I’ve been on a few different services through the years and attribute Yahoo! Personals for helping me find my wife.

What image do you have of online dating and have you tried it?

Mortal Eternity? Movie Review of "Twilight"

There’s a vampire film in your neighborhood, crouching in the shadows, waiting for you. But this is no ordinary vampire film, it has a stronger theme of true love. I wouldn’t call it horror at all. I recommend it to you in the theme of “drama that shouldn’t be missed.”

There’s a vampire film in your neighborhood, crouching in the shadows, waiting for you. But this is no ordinary vampire film, it has a stronger theme of true love. I wouldn’t call it horror at all. I recommend it to you in the theme of “drama that shouldn’t be missed.”

Last week I saw Twilight, Catherine Hardwicke’s (director: Vanilla Sky 2001) film adaptation of the bestselling modern novel by one of the the latest and greatest pop fiction writers Stephenie Meyer. I should add that the screenplay was adapted by Melissa Rosenberg (co-executive producer: “Dexter” ). The film’s plot revolves around permanent teenage vampire, Edward Cullen, played by Robert Pattinson, and the lovely all-american mortal brunette, Bella Swan, played by Kristen Stewart. Edward is inadvertently paired up with Bella in biology class and despite his efforts to drop the class, the two begin a romance slowly but surely.

The vampire theme is played way down in this one. It is only a part of the story in so far as to explain the depth of their risk and trust in falling in love. The best part of the vampire idea, for me, is the idea of eternity and what good would it be if all your loved ones kept dying around you. This love story takes that idea and extrapolates a love story. Edward goes through mental struggles with his love for Bella. He is somewhere around 100 years old so he knows full well she will age and he will not. Once Bella finds out about his secret she has struggles of her own but seems to have no reservations about being with Edward come what may. I found myself wondering what i would do. When I wonder that in a movie, I know it’s a good movie.

There are new images of vampires in this movie as well as old stereotypes. When pressed by reporters on how she did her research, author Kristen Stewart, alluded to her Mormon background and claimed she knew nothing about vampires. She claims she dreamed it all. If that is true, quite a romatic idea on its own one might say.

My wife and I went out on an unassuming date, neither of us knowing much about this film and we both came out of it fans. Sarah (wife) has been reading the trilogy and is about done with the third. It will definitely be tough for sequels to top this one but I am just as excited as all those readers who paid 70 million opening weekend to see what becomes of these two. And, of course all us movie goers know we can’t really know until the final sequel.