Deny Opposition

If we spent less time trying to prove to other people we are worthy, we’d be more productive and valuable citizens of the world.

I reblogged this photo on tumblr.

Being internally driven is a gift. If you don’t have it, you may never get it. On the other hand, you can foster the notion can you not? Practice denial of the judgment of others. It’s a positive trait.

I chose this photo for my post because I think it’s easy to get caught up in pleasing others. There is a place for that but the core is just you. From cradle to grave you walk alone. Life shouldn’t feel like a cosmic interview all the time. The reality is, we all live in poverty. We all wish we had more.

Be smart and thankful and you’ll be way happier than most. But most of all, define your notion of success and then measure your own progress toward goals. That, and never feel like you have to prove shit to anyone but yourself. As you achieve your own goals, you’ll just be better no matter what anyone thinks.

This is a response to the Daily Post’s one word prompt: denial.

Martyr Litmus Test

Feel like a martyr? What’s your cause? A martyr must by definition be suffering for a cause.

If your cause is just yourself, you’re not a martyr, you’re just feeling sorry for yourself.

“Throw off your mental chains.” Howard Jones, New Song

This has been fun with a date stamp, tumblr photos, moleskine, and a one word prompt.

we all invent ourselves and you know me

From words of Michael Stipe to one blogger’s expression. Self-invention is a real thing and it’s beautiful.

Hello fellow life traveler! Can you relate like I can with the words in the image below? Like a captchya, I think they identify humanity.

The way I reinvent myself is usually from a visual stimulus. I’ll see something on vacation: a view, a work of art, I’ll meet a new person and I want to reflect that in my life. Sometimes ordinary settings cause me to be enlightened like the school where I teach or at home. Sometimes looking at my flickr or tumblr accounts will inspire a reinvention of sorts. I’m a very visually driven person.

There have been repeated times in my life where I was driven to construct a new me or a part of me. The most recent started with wearing my fedora hat. Before that, several years ago I decided I wanted to be a blog film critic and I started a movie blog apart from this one. I was very committed at first but it wasn’t until about a year ago that I dedicated myself to becoming something as a critic.

I hope I am always reiventing myself, even if the changes aren’t always permanent. An ideal life to me would be one that ended with the remnants of all the “reinventions” that lasted. I think the best end of a life should be determined so one can order the steps and decisions of the present life. After all, there really are no time constraints on us. Think about what Spider Robinson the eminent sci-fi writer said, “We are all time travelers moving at the speed of exactly 60 minutes per hour.” True huh?

If you consider yourself an artist, self-invention is fun. I love the REM lyric in Crush With Eyeliner. Michael Stipe sings: “We all invent ourselves and … you know me.” The allusion is, do we really know anyone? There is a lot of self invention going on. I know I am heavy into it myself. It’s like an art project for me but for others, they may not enjoy art. Guess what though? We are all inventing ourselves anyway whether we pay attention to it or not.

Another big example of recreation is in clothing styles. A few years back I decided I wanted to wear more v-neck sweaters in the Winter with white t-shirts underneath. That was a very wise one as it kept me warm and stylish. One way for me to see the many choices I’ve made about style is to go back through my flickr photos. You’ll see quite a few looks there. Do you have a flickr? If not, I highly suggest it for a lifelong app. Are there people who never alter their clothing style? Probably. I try to mix mine up once in a while.

I can’t close up this post without recommending tumblr to you. The images there give you plenty to think over. The best part about it is that you build the feed you read. There is no standard view. I’ve put together images and quotes from other tumblrs that I know have inspired me in the past. tumblr is fertile with inspiration for me. In your journey through time, I hope you find places you derive inspiration to reinvent yourself from.

Stream of Consciousness Saturday – YES

mv5bmtc0ndgwmtk2ov5bml5banbnxkftztgwnjezodiyote-_v1_sy1000_sx675_al_A lot of musicians want to be like the Beatles. They are ready to say yes to success. I don’t think the Beatles ever said that though. As I watch the recent documentary on them, I see some young men who are highly skilled in their craft and who simply go with it. The rest is history. Don’t aim at success, say yes to the work that gets you there.

Below is an In-N-Out lunch one of my students’ parents brought me on my lunch break. Totally surprise. Considering the many times I mess up in life, I still get rewards like that! This family rocks! Makes me want to say yes to all the right things.

John said yes to sitting and writing songs/singing. When he finally met Paul, Paul said “(He) had never met anybody who wrote songs before.” Paul of course wrote songs and together they made history. George played the lead guitar. He said yes to learning his scales, for years before he ever got into the Beatles. Ringo: drums. My takeaway from this is to say yes to the right things. Say no to the wrong things. Then go man go.

Your prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: “yes.” Use it as a word, use it in a word, extra points if you start and finish your post with it. Enjoy!After you’ve written your Saturday post tomorrow, please link it here.

Source: Stream of Consciousness Saturday | Linda G. Hill

One Thing I’ll Always Volunteer for: Making the Coffee

groundsWhen visiting other people’s houses, I’ll always volunteer to make the coffee. I worked in a coffee-house years back and so I know all the secrets of the trade, like drink recipes and definitions.

In the mornings here at home, it’s almost always my “volunteer” job to make the coffee, and I love to do it. How do I make it you may ask? Well, usually with a French Press. We always have Starbucks grounds on hand. I use about 4 tablespoons of coffee and very hot distilled water. My wife makes hers with the brew: Coffee Mate French Vanilla and Truvia (I could be wrong, she’s always changing sweeteners).

img_0859I drink mine black. I’ve been cutting down on caffeine every once in a while I cut it with hot water. Instant also has less caffeine. It tastes heavenly. I’ve volunteered to make coffee on camping trips, at work, in hotels, and at training meetings. I never mind doing it. The song goes: “I’d like to buy the world a coke” but in my case my song should have coffee where coke is. It’s a great wake-me-up. If we were having coffee, I’d volunteer to make you one now.

teachingThings are going great this week. I’m finished with 1/2 of my parent conferences (I’m a 4th grade teacher). It’s always so enlightening to talk with parents that come in. Some have a lot of entitlement attitudes and other are so gracious and open to learning. You just never know what’s going to walk through that door.

true-detective-season-1-episode-7I really enjoyed Season 1 of True Detective last week. Season 2 is pretty good so far, I’m on episode 2. Last night I saw Nine Lives at the dollar theater with my daughter Julianna. It wasn’t bad! I was pleasantly surprised. For a kid cat movie I’d be close to recommending it. It feels good now to be in the “no-work” for the weekend. Someone at work will put in a memo or email “I hope you all are rested from your weekend.” I hate that. To that person I say: ‘Don’t even mention things about my weekend. It’s mine. You may “own me” M-F but when I leave I’m gone and you aren’t invited.’ Anyone else feel like that? I dunno.

Ok, rant over. How are you (pours coffee)?